Here is a letter from a man who had a crush on a history teacher named Lois Weiser (whose name later became Lois Wolf) at West Orange Mountain High School in New Jersey. The man asks to remain anonymous. He writes:
I not only loved her as a teacher, but also had the hots for her in a major way, the kind of crush adolescent boys have on mature women 5 or 10 years older. I imagined having a woman like her some day.
I think to me Miss Weiser represented my first taste of what a mature woman could be like, and I was just at the age when I was beginning to examine what it would be like to be a man having a real woman, rather than just a boy being attracted to girls.
My attraction to her was definitely physical, but had a very large intellectual and personality component to it. I wanted to be a man with a "full" personality and intellectual capability capable of being at ease with and confident around that kind of woman.
Much different than just the typical high school "hots" for teenage girls.
I have to say that the fantasy of making love to her animated me for many, many years after I left high school and had lost touch with my teenage years.
Sunday, July 13, 2008
His crush on a New Jersey teacher 15 years older than him
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Xu Chaoqin and her 10-year-younger husband, Liu Guojiang
An incredible love story has come out of China recently and managed to touch the world. It is a story of a man and an older woman who ran off to live and love each other in peace for over half a century.
The 70-year-old Chinese man, who hand-carved more than 6,000 stairs up a mountain for his 80-year-old wife, has passed away in the cave which has been the couple's home for the last 50 years.
More than 50 years ago, Liu Guojiang a 19-year-old boy, fell in love with a 29-year-old widowed mother named Xu Chaoqin.
In a twist worthy of Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet, friends and relatives criticized the relationship because of the age difference and the fact that Xu already had children.
At that time, it was unacceptable and immoral for a young man to love an older woman. To avoid the market gossip and the scorn of their communities, the couple decided to elope and lived in a cave in Jiangjin County in Southern ChongQing municipality.
In the beginning, life was harsh as hey had nothing, no electricity or even food. They had to eat grass and roots they found in the mountain, and Liu made a kerosene lamp that they used to light up their lives.
Xu felt that she had tied Liu down and repeatedly asked him, "Are you regretful?" Liu always replied, "As long as we are industrious, life will improve."
In the second year of living in the mountain, Liu began and continued for over 50 years, to hand-carve the steps so that his wife could get down the mountain easily.
Half a century later, in 2001, a group of adventurers were exploring the forest and were surprised to find the elderly couple and the over 6,000 hand-carved steps. Liu MingSheng, one of their seven children said, "My parents loved each other so much, they have lived in seclusion for over 50 years and never been apart a single day. He hand carved more than 6,000 steps over the years for my mother's convenience, although she doesn't go down the mountain that much."
The couple had lived in peace for over 50 years until last week. Liu, now 72 years, returned from his daily farm work and collapsed. Xu sat and prayed with her husband as he passed away in her arms. So in love with Xu, was Liu, that no one was able to release the grip he had on his wife's hand even after he had passed away.
"You promised me you'll take care of me, you'll always be with me until the day I died, now you left before me, how am I going to live without you?"
Xu spent days softly repeating this sentence and touching her husband's black coffin with tears rolling down her cheeks. In 2006, their story became one of the top 10 love stories from China , collected by the Chinese Women Weekly. The local government has decided to preserve the love ladder and the place they lived as a museum, so this love story can live forever.
